I Know That You Know What I Mean

"I DO is an active state. it's a positive affirmation. I am in control, and i move forward towards a goal or a wish or a desire. there is no fear. in terms of a relationship, things are fine and peaceful. i am the good mother. i am generous and caring- the giver, the provider. it is the 'i love you' no matter what.
THE UNDO is the unravelling. the torment that things are not right and the anxiety of not knowing what to do. there can be total destruction in an attempt to find an answer, and there can be terrific violence that decends into depression. one is immobile in the wake of fear. it is the view from the bottom of the well. in terms of relationship to others, it's a total rejection and destruction. it is the return of the repressed. i take things away. i smash things, relations are broken. i am the bad mother. it is the disappearance of the love object. the guilt leads to a deep despair and passivity. one retreats into ones lair to stragtegize, recover and regroup.
THE REDO means a solution is found to the problem. it may not be the final answer, but there is an attempt to go forward. you get terms of relationships to others, the reparation and reconciliation has been achieved. things are back to normal. there is love and hope again. " - Bourgeois

lady of the house of love